Can you recall a time in your life when you felt like you could accomplish anything? Where you felt absolute certainty and confidence? When fear and insecurity no longer held you back? Where were you? What were you doing? How did you feel? If you are honest with yourself, would you want to return to that state again?
What if you could feel this way everyday? How would your life be different? What would you do if you didn’t feel fear anymore. Would you believe me if I said you could? Most likely not – in fact, up until recently I wouldn’t have believed it myself. Many people in the world would have you believe that feeling that alive, feeling that excited for the future is unnatural. They would have you believe that we are reactionary beings -that our emotions are a function of the external events that are occurring around us.
Or maybe, as some people put it, “life just sucks”. Life is hard and is full of pain and letdowns. So we look for fleeting moments of peace or satisfaction, coupled with lots entertainment and distraction. We really don’t want to be hurt, or risk failure, because failure and hurt equals pain so we lower our standards for what we will accept emotionally in our lives.
There is a way however to condition your mind and your emotions so that every day you feel empowered, grateful, inspired, and alive. The magic is that it is actually is a very simple exercise, and at most its takes only an hour a day (it can be shorter as well if you have time restrains). The key is in the ritualized method of conditioning your mind, focus and emotions to be at their best.
I learned this technique from Tony Robbins, and it has honestly changed my life. He calls it “The Hour of Power”. The exercise involves utilizing three simple, but powerful concepts (Tony calls these the Triad):
- Controlled Focus: Directed focus on only the things that you want. This is based on a belief that focus = feeling = life, and also where your focus goes your energy will flow. Controlled focus can be like a laser beam, but as anyone who has engaged in meditation can attest, it is a skill which takes time and discipline to master.
- Physiology: Emotion is created by motion. Your emotional state is really controlled by what you do with your body. How do you feel when you are in good shape, and consistently exercising? It is as addictive as a drug. Try this exercise if you don’t believe in the power of your physiology to control your emotional state – go stand in front of a mirror for 5 minutes with a big goofy smile and see how you feel at the end of the exercise.
- Language: The words that we use on a consistent basis, the metaphors we evoke, and the self-directed questions that we engage in have a real impact on our emotions. This component, for many of us, is the hardest to condition because we aren’t even conscious of the disempowering words, phrases or metaphors we are using. However, they have a real impact on us.
- Phase 1: Move and Breathe (5 minutes): Just start moving (walk, dance, whatever as long as you are moving) and do deep yoga breathing techniques (deep through nose into lower stomach). Taps fingers (energy points) while you are doing this.
- Phase 2: Exercise and Incantations (45 minutes): Hard cardio or muscle building exercise to fast music while I state empowering incantations (sayings that I want to work into my subconscious). For example – here are a couple of sayings that I use: “I will find a way or I will make one”, “Day by Day I’m feeling stronger”, “I feel alive”, “Step up”, “All I need is within me now”. There are many more, but basically I am programming my mind by using language to influence my subconscious.
- Phase 3: Intense Gratitude (10 minutes): In this phase I use three songs. To the first song (Supertramp – Give a Little Bit) I vividly visualize everything in my life that I am grateful for (everything good that has happened in the past). To the second song (You Can Make the Pathway Bright – Mormon Tabernacle Choir) I visualize the successful accomplishment of my long term goals (who I want to become, what I want to do) and then I feel gratitude for accomplishing them. Then, for the last song (Somewhere Over the Rainbow – Israel “IZ” Kamakawiwo’ole), I visualize the successful accomplishment of my short term goals and then feel gratitude for accomplishing them.